Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Stressed, Tired, and Cranky....

No....not Reid....me! Ok, I am making myself pretty transparent here and I am just going to say it how it is. Reid is being DIFFICULT with a CAPITAL D. You are all thinking, "Right...look at that sweet face..." I know....I know. Here is our stress...or mine because I try and let Brian sleep as much as possible because he has to get up and go to work in the morning.

Reid goes down to sleep beautifully for naps AND for bedtime. I put him down awake, and he just holds his blankie and sings himself to sleep. No problems. Perfect little guy. Here comes the stress....he wakes up anywhere from 3-6 times in the night from 11 pm on and just cries. He won't let up. His ears are fine...I change him if he needs it....and I have done the "get-through-it-mode-rocking-until-he-sleeps...which, by the way does NOT work because Reid wakes the moment I put him down and the crying again begins. So, tonight....FERBER begins. You know...cry it out, go in and check on them every 5, 10, 15 minutes routine. I HATE IT....but I truly can not live like this another day. I think in the last 2 nights...I have been lucky to get 2 hours of sleep total. Yeah...and then try and function normally with 2 little ones that need you. It's been rough. I don't know why the sudden switch in Reid...and what is provoking this...but it has been going on for some time now...and at almost 14 months old...he should sleep through the night. Should...being the key word there. Prayers tonight for me to be strong and for Reid to be tired. I think we are all ready for some rest. Thank goodness for my parents....they offered to take Ellie today and have her spend the night tonight. What a help...thanks, Mom and Dad! Well, Reid just went down for his afternoon nap....and I am going to go lay down, too. Maybe I can catch up a bit. If anyone out there has some solid parenting advice on sleep.....let me have it. I feel like I am grasping at air.....and there is nothing there to hold on to. I know that this will all pass....but whew....a 1 year old is winning this battle....and I am left behnid waving my white flag.....


Krissy said...

I know you can do it Janeen! We Ferberized Drew just at a year ago -- actually started the day after Christmas since Jon and I were both on vacation. He was 6 months old and while he would sleep all night, it was the getting him into bed without waking up that was about to drive us nuts! That and all the short naps he was taking b/c again he would wake up as soon as you laid him down!

There were a couple of bad episodes, but after the first two days, things went pretty good. Unfortunatley, he got "unferberized" after his lip surgery in February so we had to re-do it over Memorial Day weekend...

I'll be thinking of you -- just stay tough -- the end result will be worth it! :o)

Clan Goodrich said...

OH, Janeen. I was thinking maybe your frequent waking was a new thing. You are right...he is too old to be getting up this much. In fact, you are now getting up the same as I am between my TWO boys. It sounds like he knows how to put himself back to sleep, he just LOVES his mommy too much. I will say some prayers that the horrible CIO time will be short lived and solve the problem. Momma needs her sleep!

Heather said...

Wish I had some advice for you! But our problem here is Aidan is still addicted to his binky (Haberman nipple) and he sometimes wakes up in the night... but I can easily go in, put the binky back in his mouth, and he'll fall back asleep. I know I need to wean him off of it soon. I can't seem to get Aidan on a consistent schedule for naps and/or bedtime, but hopefully when I go back to work, it'll get better.

Good luck with Ferber! I hope it helps. I can't imagine how you'll survive when work starts up again (when do you go back?). I wish winter break were a bit longer!

Darcy said...

How terribly frustrating.

I might get some heat for what I'm going to say, but we did Ferber Method from the very beginning. It was sooo worth it.

Rachel has phases where now that she's in a big girl bed, she'll just get up in the middle of the night and come crawl into our bed. Which is a bad habit. Some times we just let her stay. Last week she came in and I literally could not fall asleep for over 2 hours after she came in and I put her back in her bed. She does it so many nights in a row and you really begin to notice how your sleep is interrupted. I finally told her one night, if she got out of bed, she would get a spanking in the middle of the night. She's stayed in her bed now for several nights in a row. But she's done this before....stays in her bed for months and then goes through this phase of getting up. It's SOOOO annoying. So I do feel your pain.

It's awesome your mom took Ellie. Praise the Lord for grandparents who live close by and can really step in when needed and when it's important. My parents are that way....four miles away.

I'll be praying tonight goes well Janeen. Tough Love. Tough Love. Remember stick to your guns no matter how tired or how many times you have to get up tonight. IF you do it tonight, tomorrow night will be that much easier.


Allison said...

Hi Janeen,

We are dealing with this same exact thing with Abby! Goes down great, but up screaming multiple times in the night. I try to just ignore it, but eventually I give in and take her a bottle. She used to do this and want to nurse, but now it's the bottle. I never planned on giving her a bottle after nursing, but it just kind of happened that way because she got sick a couple weeks after we weaned. Oh, these kids. What are we going to do with them?

Best of luck on the Furberizing. We definitely go through phases of this with both kids. Ella was Furberized from about 4 weeks on, but we are now dealing with the same thing as Darcy and Rachel. She's in a phase of getting up to snuggle, and the past few nights I just haven't had the energy to deal with putting her back. We'll get it though, one of these times!

Sweet dreams!

Anonymous said...

I had a son that did not sleep thru the night for TWO YEARS!!!! He woke up multiple times thru out the night. I would put a heating pad in the bed to keep it warm while I rocked him back to sleep, then remove the heating pad when I laid him down on the warm spot so as not to wake him again on the cold sheet. That seemed to work a little. Is he getting molars??? That was always a tough time.

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